I can believe I have been a naturalista since December 2014, I stopped relaxing my hair in 2013 ( can’t remember the exact month but it was late in the year) and did a big chop in 2014. At the time when was transitioning till i cut it, I was watching tutorials from Naptural85, naturallyniecy and a torn of others. I had information from different women with different hair textures and styles. Now that I have been on this journey for almost 6 years now and I love how things have changed from 2014 till now; we see so many black, brown, mixed women around the globe are embracing the hair that grows out of their scalp and it’s such a beautiful thing to see.
Here are some of the things I wish I knew when I first went ‘natural’….
1. Your hair might be more kinky than curly and it’s actually a good thing
It took me awhile to understand this, i have type 4c hair and I always assumed I would have type 4a/b when I cut my relaxed ends off. Imagine my shock when I would try a wash and go and by the it’s dried up it ended up looking like the end of a brush instead of bounteous shiny curls. I never liked growing my hair out because of the texture and always wanted to go back to a shorter cut, put my hair in rollers and even stretched my hair a couple of times. It took me a while to embrace my hair texture and realized this was what God has blessed me with and just enjoy & learn to appreciate it.
2. You don’t have to focus on length
Rather focus on retention. You have probably seen a lot of naturalistas on your insta feed or various websites with long voluminous curls and you are wondering why is my hair not growing. There is so much buzz about length obsession in the black hair community, I honestly wonder why? It feels like we have something to prove as black women and it’s really not necessary. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to want your hair to grow but if after 6 years of following all the steps; deep conditioning, protective styling etc your natural hair it’s not up to waist length don’t get frustrated. I believe any hair length is beautiful. Focus more on retention and ensuring your hair is healthy.
3. You don’t need a million products or that magic product.
This hit me so bad, I used to be a product hoarder. If I saw someone using a product that worked for them, I rushed to buy it and ended up with a lot of products on my shelf that I didn’t know what or why I got them. My hair and wallet did not love this process earlier on in this journey. I currently have a few products in rotation and try out a few newly released products once in awhile but I mostly stick to my ride or die products.
4. People are going to talk, talk, talk and talk.
Why is your hair like this? Won’t you relax your hair? How do you comb it? I don’t know how you do it, I would have relaxed my hair since?…… and many more questions and opinions. You have decided to go natural, embrace it. Don’t let anybody tell you what to do with your hair, it was your decision and you can decide to do with it whatever you want with it.
5. Natural hair care is not a PhD course. It’s just hair
Growing your natural hair is easier than you think, it’s doesn’t require a lot of complicated processes. Honestly when I realized this, I have loved my hair more. It’s my hair, I love the texture, length, shape and size. It’s unique to just you. Don’t over stress, figure out your hair type, work on a routine that works for you and enjoy your natural hair journey.
Most importantly love your hair, whether natural, relaxed or maybe in-between both.
What do you wish you knew when you decided to embrace your kinks and curls?