Have you ever experienced or gone through something traumatic. Where you had to ask yourself, how did it happen? Why did it happen? Could I have done something to avoid it? These were some of the questions going through my mind on the 8th of March 2019; a day I may never forget.
Let me do I quick recap on what happened; I was on my way back to work after a quick meeting and I decided to use the atm to get some cash I might need over the weekend because I don’t like using the atm during the weekend to avoid stories that touch like dispense error, temporarily unable to dispense cash and the likes….. After using the atm I boarded a public transport, paid my money and waited for the conductor to pay me my balance. Unknowingly to me the guy beside me in the bus was busy tearing my bag and picking my phone and wallet. I only found out when I wanted to put the balance of my money back into my wallet and found out the two items were missing in my bag and the guy had alighted from the bus.
Now who can guess how I reacted in the bus. Ohhhh I believe I went from confusion to shock to becoming hysterical. I honestly didn’t know where the tears came from but they flowed like the niagra falls. At the same time my mind was racing with the fact that I had so many things to do. I had to block my atm cards and sim card. To cut the long story short, I was able to do all of that on the said date but I was left with no phone. I had lost all my contacts because I couldn’t retrieve my mobile number and I couldn’t continue with my blog and side hustle because i was using my phone for it (still saving up for a laptop)
It’s safe to say i was exhausted and i didn’t want to do anything but just sleep and watch a movie. The whole experience was traumatic.
According to Wikipedia ‘Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience.’ This was exactly what happened to me, I was stressed physically and mentally.
HOW DID I OVERCOME THIS EXPERIENCE
It’s important to try not to let circumstances determine the outcome of your life. Hmmmm easier said than done right but it’s the only way to overcome whatever life throws at you. You need to decide if you are going to remain positive or continue to wallow in self pity or let that situation swallow you up. It took me a whole weekend to kind of get out of it; I realized that life had continued, after all the “sorry my dear” “omg I can’t believe” “God would repay you back” i was left with a decision on what do you now want to do. This is what I did;
- Make a list – I wrote a list of things I wanted to achieve and how I was going to do it
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help – My younger sister gave me her tablet to use while i was in the process of getting a new phone. Thank God for support from family and friends. God bless you all.
- Always have a backup plan – Retrieved all the documents had backed up on google drive and photos. Please if you haven’t done that, open a new tab on your phone or laptop and do it now. I mean now! No time to procrastinate.
When things don’t go according to plan, you need to sometimes ask yourself what can I take away from this. What has this taught me and how can I apply it to my daily affairs. Which Is what I did, some of the lessons learnt from this experience include;
- Be security conscious, I actually thought I was until this happened to me. You need to be at alert. When boarding a public transport, check for the passengers in it. If you are not comfortable inside it’s okay to alight. When using the atm, check your surroundings, don’t share important information and the likes. Heighten your security sensitivity (if that makes sense)
- Back Up, Back up your entire phone and laptop including important contacts to avoid stories that touch the heart.
- Save!!!! Open an account for emergency savings. You can save 10% of your monthly salary or sign up on PiggyVest they have various ways to help save money to suit your personal needs. Discipline is key!
- Be kind and always be ready to help others not just because you want to get something from them but I believe in the power of sowing and reaping. As long as there is summer and winter, autumn and spring, rain and sunshine. If you sow kindness you would reap kindness.
- Have FAITH – I knew I had to get a phone before the end of the month, because of my deadlines and accessibility. I didn’t know how possible that was but I trusted God to do it. You know what He came through. It was even better than the one I had before. Funny enough I remember writing my goals earlier in the year and sharing it with God (who better to put a stamp or correction on my plans than the Him) and I wrote a new phone by the end of the first quarter, and He did it.
In the end, it’s up to you to determine the outcome of your situation. No matter what you may have gone through, you are coming out of it stronger and better.
This brings me back to the question I asked earlier on, Have you ever experienced or gone through something traumatic? How did you overcome it and what did you learn from it?
Till next time
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